Q about libido (and very personal)

[IceDragon]

Keep it serious, please peeps...

Now, normally I don't have problems, but it's getting to the stage where I'm practically growling at anyone who speaks to me because my libido is kind of going nuts right now, and has been for the last year or so.

I know I can relieve it myself and I do, but it only takes the edge off (hel, I've even tried it two three times a day and it's still not enough, if you pardon the gruesome details) and I'm not willing to go off to find someone since my bf isn't in the country (there is a war on ya know) and I don't f*ck around (no pun intended). It used to be manageable (kinda) but now its getting really bad.

Thing is, is this just something I need to deal with by attempting to ignore it, or what? I don't have a clue and I'm seriously out of ideas. Am I the only woman who gets this, or am I a special case?

(well..."headcase" might be more accurate if this continues for much longer...)

[1quick1]

Welcome to every minute of everyday in the life of a male.

[Condor]

Originally Posted by 1quick1

Welcome to every minute of everyday in the life of a male.

Literally took the words out of my mouth.

I did some reading on this while in undergrad in a psychology & psychiatry course, and I remember the consensus being that men reach a sexual/libido peak in their late teens, while females tend to experience this more towards their mid-30s. At 29, perhaps you might be entering the early part of this stage.

There are a lot of variables here: Diet, exercise, mood, health conditions, medications, etc etc etc. They are all part of the equation, BUT our studies were primarily focused around a LACK of libido and sexual desire due to these variables, rather than the abundance of libido/desire you describe. I'll try not to dive too deep into the biology of it because I am certainly not an expert, but all-in-all it sounds like you are very healthy ...I mean, when your body is telling you that it wants sex, I don't think that it is unreasonable to consider that you are in good health, and are being told by nature--> as far as having offspring is concerned, you're good to go! Good news all around, biologically speaking.

As far as dealing with it goes, I'll first say that I admire your loyalty to boyfriend, esp. during his time of service. I would advise against ignoring it...As with most things in life, I feel like the less I know about something, the less control I have over it. If you become educated about your mind/body and this particular issue, you will probably have a much better chance of successfully handling it.

One thing is for sure. You are DEFINITELY NOT the only woman who gets this. My best advice would be to bring this up in full detail at your next Dr. appointment. And, if you're not comfortable talking about this topic with your current Dr., get a new Dr.!!! A good practitioner has (A) Heard it all before and (B) Will be a wealth of knowledge on the subject, and more than happy to help you through the struggle. Best of luck!

[Critical Mass]

Wow. I was going to try to say something, but I have nothing.

[IceDragon]

Thanks guys, especially Condor, remind me to give you a hug next time I see ya, mate (although that's probably not a good idea lol)

Looks like I'm pretty much screwed then (no pun intended lol).

[Big Guns]

I applaud you for not cheating on your SO. I know a few women that do (while their SO is protecting us). I want to shoot them in the head. I am sorry that you are suffering now, but I really feel sorry for you BF when he returns!!!

[IceDragon]

Oh shiiiiiiit...I almost feel sorry for him.

I just hope we remember to eat real food for the first month or so...

[1quick1]

When does your BF come home?

[IceDragon]

No idea. August 2005 and counting.