being skinny obbsession

[zah_zah]

i agree i do need self estem but i dont have any and i dont want to be obsessed with my weight but i am when i look at food the first thing i think of is dont eat it or how many calories in it. i want to exerice all the time and i havnt been meantime cause my parents wont let me use the treadmill i get guilty for eating. i havnt lost weight in like 2 weeks and i feel disgusited with myself, my parents also want me to go to the doctor again but i dont want her to tell me to gain weight or that i might or have an eating disorder. i just want to know what is a healthy calorie limit for me which i can still lose 5 pounds but i still can keep my energy up

[maverick494]

Zah zah, please read this, coming from a former near-anorexic girl:

you've hit a plateau girl. Ur not losing any weight, nor are you going to if you keep on starving urself. Your body is now in self preservation mode and your metabolism has most probably slowed down a great deal. Also this way of dieting causes you to lose muscle, which isn't helping, to say the least.

I hope you now realise that this isn't the right way to lose weight. I've been there, and it wasn't nice. I got thin, but not in a pretty way. I probably had the length and weight of Adriana Lima, but my body didn't look like hers. I looked like a rice noodle, she looks toned and tight.

I understand the problems you have with your parents. My own gave me a pretty hard time about my eating habits as well. My dad insisted I was anorexic and my mom wanted me to see a doctor. I was cold and tired all the time, but in denial.

My dieting started because of my low self esteem. I thought, if I lost a lot of weight, I would look better and be liked more. This was the oposite of the truth:

When my weight plunged below what was healthy for my length, a guy I secretly fancied came up and talked to me during break at school. U can understand I was excited and surprised.
The only thing I remember about that conversation was him saying at one point: "You used to look so pretty, but I'm worried about you. You've gotten too thin these days. Have you been ill?"

That was my turning point. I really hope you'll find yours soon.

Talk to your parents, girl. Tell them how unhappy you feel about them being so overprotective even tho they just wanna be good parents. If you're afraid of telling them, or afraid of it not coming out properly, write it down and give it to them. That way you can tell it the way you wanna say it without interuptions. They have no choice but to read it.

And ask yourself why you want to lose weight so badly. Why you want to be skinny so badly. And remember: getting better isn't suddenly stuffing yourself and gaining a lot. Getting better is healthy eating and feeling better.

Good luck!

[Tim_14]

Seriouly u gotta stop, EAT!

If you count everything u eat and their calories, how many calories are you eating a day anyway!?

[zah_zah]

i do eat, i have never starved myself i try to keep my calories bellow 1000 so im not dieting dangerously.

[guscave]

Hi zah-zah,
If you're 5'9 and currently weighing about 120lbs, your Basal Metabolic Rate(BMR) indicates you should be eating around 1200 calories per day. If you're exercising on a regular basis that amount could be more.

Also remember that muscle burns fat, so if you're starving yourself (or not eating enough) you're going to reach that plateau and stay there until you start eating right. Also keep in mind that you're not only loosing muscle but could start loosing bone density, and trust me that will bring you more problems than you'd want to deal with.

I agree 100% with Maverick, talk to parents, and get help now.

[Tim_14]

Sorry Zah Zah but 1000 calories a day is pretty dangerous and has probablly sent ur metabolism plumeting down!'
It wasnt that long ago that i ate 1100 a day and that was even to little. I now try and stuff myself with 2000 a day and already i have seen and felt increases in my metabolism.

Take the advice from me, at LEAST eat 1500 a day, ur not doing urself any good, ur doing urself bad! sorry.

[zah_zah]

Originally Posted by Tim_14

Sorry Zah Zah but 1000 calories a day is pretty dangerous and has probablly sent ur metabolism plumeting down!'
It wasnt that long ago that i ate 1100 a day and that was even to little. I now try and stuff myself with 2000 a day and already i have seen and felt increases in my metabolism.

Take the advice from me, at LEAST eat 1500 a day, ur not doing urself any good, ur doing urself bad! sorry.

please no offense wth this comment but according to your weight and height your underweight.

[Tim_14]

None taken.

I am well awear that i am underweight but that is because i did the same thing as you did, i ate very little!

It really messed up my metabolism and now i am just starting to get it going again. I am also trying to gain muscle.

But please, at the very least eat 1500 calories a day plus, not 1000, thats just silly.

Sorry if this is a little harsh its just that i have a friend who is similar to you and i am very concerned for you both. Its not healthy and its not going to do you any good.

[zah_zah]

Originally Posted by Tim_14

None taken.

I am well awear that i am underweight but that is because i did the same thing as you did, i ate very little!

It really messed up my metabolism and now i am just starting to get it going again. I am also trying to gain muscle.

But please, at the very least eat 1500 calories a day plus, not 1000, thats just silly.

Sorry if this is a little harsh its just that i have a friend who is similar to you and i am very concerned for you both. Its not healthy and its not going to do you any good.

hey but im not starving myself im losing weight normaly because i limit my calories and exercise, i havnt been exercising recently cause my parents dont let me go on the treadmill so i have lowered my calories

[MIR]

Let me try. You're eating too little.

Did you understand? I can put it other way also, if you didn't.

[zah_zah]

Originally Posted by MIR

Let me try. You're eating too little.

Did you understand? I can put it other way also, if you didn't.

im not eating too little.

[jenn]

ok if you don't eat enough you won't get the body you want so listen up when we tell you eat more. figure this so many ppl telling you its not enough and only u thinking its too much so whos right??? think about it . get off the warped glass and get real before you get yourself into real trouble. stop and think about, put your emotional response aside and look at it from a different view as if your were someone else. we are older and wiser and i've been where you are and trust me it will get you NOWHERE fast. except maybe a visist to the hospital girl. get real about it ok.

[Crazylegs]

Hey guys, how can I lose more weight? I want to be -10 lbs so I can float and blow around in the wind, ok? Don't tell me to eat more, cause that is wrong. Actually whatever you say is wrong, ok? So just tell me what I need to do, but make sure it's what I want to hear, ok?

Things you can do to lose more weight:

- Pull out all your teeth. What do you need all that un-used hardware for anyway?
- Chop off all your hair, its hideous like boobs anyway.
- Eat 1 bean a day. The sacrifice in mass you take in, will be negated by the propellant gas you create. (Think jet-propulsion)
- Give up water, it just goes straight to your boobs anyway.
- Do you really need all 20 fingers and toes? I think not!

[zah_zah]

Originally Posted by Crazylegs

Hey guys, how can I lose more weight? I want to be -10 lbs so I can float and blow around in the wind, ok? Don't tell me to eat more, cause that is wrong. Actually whatever you say is wrong, ok? So just tell me what I need to do, but make sure it's what I want to hear, ok?

Things you can do to lose more weight:

- Pull out all your teeth. What do you need all that un-used hardware for anyway?
- Chop off all your hair, its hideous like boobs anyway.
- Eat 1 bean a day. The sacrifice in mass you take in, will be negated by the propellant gas you create. (Think jet-propulsion)
- Give up water, it just goes straight to your boobs anyway.
- Do you really need all 20 fingers and toes? I think not!

yeah thats real funny!!!

[MIR]

And neither is your situation.

So I'll have to put it the other way also: go to see a doctor. It would be a very courageous thing for you to do, courageous enough that it would make you a honourable and wise girl in my thoughts. Hey, let's put it that way, maybe the doctor would understand your points of view and acknowledge them! You have to remember, he/she is an educated person, whose purpose is to know when things are going to go okay or not with the way the client thinks about her/himself, his/her outlook and nutrition. They are people who are educated to know exactly how the client feels in his/her situation.

Just start going to a nutrition therapist and hear what the person has to say; you don't have to agree with him/her, nor should you directly disagree with or reject his/her views. That is a good thing to practise on for your life in general, and here is a good chance to exercise it. But either way you choose to follow with your own free will, have good luck with it, and remember that there are people who really care.

mir